by Mika Salaí
What if I find him repulsive? A client who doesn’t turn me on visually — or worse, disgusts me? What then?
This question is on many people’s minds. And me? I have to smile every time I hear it. Because it says much more about the questioners than about me.
Maybe it’s our collective luck that I just can’t – or won’t – keep my mouth shut. After all, it would be a shame to let all the truths go unsaid. I’m talented in many ways, but the things I fail miserably at are often the ones I’m not genuinely interested in.
Not completely voluntarily ?
So, what then? In the first step, this question — especially when it’s asked with wide eyes and a tense mouth — only reveals one thing: the hidden assumption that I wouldn’t be doing all of this completely voluntarily. Otherwise, the answer would be pretty straightforward, right? What do you do if you don’t want to sleep with someone? Exactly, you just don’t do it (at least, I sincerely hope that’s the case).
Many of you still believe that my fee robs me of my freedom of choice – that once the money is on the table, I no longer have control over what happens. That these bills turn me into a helpless puppet who either endures everything or hastily leaves the hotel room. That when I say my fee turns me on, it’s just a cleverly designed marketing strategy. An euphemism for claiming that money is merely an incentive for exploring boundaries.
But I believe this black-and-white thinking will eventually backfire on you. I wonder: How do you navigate a world full of grey areas if you only hold on to extremes?
Men are allowed to strive for money – in fact, it often makes them even more desirable. And when they succeed and enjoy it – with style, mind you – then they are to be congratulated. The fact that they may have done things they wouldn’t have considered without this incentive – like skipping sex with their wife because they’re so exhausted from work that they no longer have the energy for erotic foreplay, or laughing at that bad joke their boss tells for the hundredth time – is usually left unsaid.
These things might be annoying, maybe a little unpleasant for a moment – but they don’t keep anyone up at night. On the contrary, these men know exactly why they’re doing it. They want to retire at 40 so they can spend their days doing what they really enjoy.
Admittedly, the comparison isn’t perfect, but it makes one thing clear: Sex work is work – and it’s work that I am choosing.
I could also ask the all-too-common question of how many of you really enjoy sitting in an office in front of a computer for eight hours a day, five days a week. But even that is starting to get boring. And it all sounds much too much like I have to drag myself to my job. As if I’m not filled with pride when I talk about it. Or as if I don’t still get butterflies before a first date. As if I don’t fully enjoy the natural high after a date – and yes, the pile of bills in my bag contributes to that, as does the lingering feeling between my legs and the knowledge: This person could have had anyone — and instead, they chose to pay dearly for my unruly head’s company.
The freedom this provides me, plus the fact that my work takes me to places where others simply relax and enjoy – exclusive hotels, luxurious restaurants, and wellness oases – often lets me wonder why I still have to explain this. Honestly, do you really want to tell me this idea doesn’t excite you?
Give and take
But enough of the beautifully worded lines – you want a clear answer, right? So, what if I really find my counterpart repulsive?
Once again for everyone: If it’s truly bad, then I just leave. But that has never happened so far. And as I see it, there are a few possibilities here too:
One is that I don’t find the person repulsive because of their appearance, but because of their character. That’s a bigger problem, especially with a longer date, but don’t worry, I’m a pro. It happened once that, at the start of a date, I wondered whether I wanted to continue at all. Just because he was so arrogant, so unpleasant in a way that’s hard to describe. But I’m a master at matching the energy, and I decided instead that I simply wouldn’t see him again. He wanted to seriously question my education? Okay, there were plenty of things I could question about him. In a charming way, of course. Salaí only takes revenge where it’s deserved.
Another time, upon first eye contact I thought, “Ugh, this is really going to be a challenge to get into this person,” turned into one of the most beautiful experiences that still resonates with me today. He had already sent me a picture beforehand – though I never ask for one because it honestly doesn’t interest me. But the picture was obviously old. Very old. Maybe a decade.
Visually, I found him almost repulsive at first. And I know how bad that sounds. That’s exactly the worry of many men who book me. I sat down with him, and it didn’t take long before I realized he was a real gentleman, and we could exchange ideas on many topics for hours. He even brought me a gift, a thoughtful gesture that I greatly appreciated and still keeps a place next to my bed.
By that point, I was completely unconcerned about the physical intimacy — good conversations can be so arousing and create an authentic connection between two people. But then it got even better than I had dared to hope. He let me do things with him that only few others could enjoy – but I believe that was exactly what he was looking for. He followed my instructions meticulously, and before it was over, he screamed my name: “Mika! Mika!” over and over again. That’s a sound that still resonates in me to this day.
So, what do I do when I find someone repulsive at first sight? I look for things that connect us. That’s also part of why it can be beneficial to date a professional like me. Part of my service is to pull out these things, to lovingly search for them, and then, once I’ve found them, to celebrate them generously.
In private dating, other motives often play a role. People are either not ready to look beyond the first veil, or if they are, it’s often because they want to relieve you of much more than I do. Some say my fee is outrageous, but I honestly don’t believe that. You get my all, the best of the best – and then I will leave you lovingly behind. Your life remains untouched by me, even if your soul might feel differently.
She, on the other hand, doesn’t want a fixed fee. But she, the one some claim offers herself for free, wants half your wealth, half your income, and a ring. She wants to be lovingly woken up in the morning and fall asleep tightly embraced in the evening. In between, you should ensure that the toilet seat is either up or down – and don’t you dare to work too long and not have the energy for a romantic tête-à-tête.
Power
There’s also a third possibility, which is relatively easy to handle depending on its extent: What if the person doesn’t look completely repulsive but smells unpleasant? As I said, intensity is key here. If the person otherwise looks well-groomed, I can assume that the nervous sweat before a first date might just have gotten the best of him. In that case, I either send him off to the shower alone, or we go together – and I scrub him thoroughly with soap to freshen him up.
For most men, this is a learning experience anyway. Because yes, soap is good – but using a sponge with soap is even better and should be the standard. Rubbing a bit with your hands and letting water run over it? That’s not a shower, that’s a quick wash.
It’s often the little things that make the difference. Whether it’s a man who’s troubled by nervous sweat, or one who thinks the same finger belongs in both my ass and my pussy.
Knowledge is power. And some men still have quite a bit to catch up on.